Not long ago, I caught myself replaying a perfectly ordinary conversation while brushing my teeth. Nothing went wrong. Nothing needed fixing. And yet my brain was busy rewriting it anyway. That moment was a reminder of something I see constantly in my work. Our brains are incredibly good at keeping us alert, prepared, and protected. They are far less good at knowing when to stop. Most people assume that if their mind is racing, something must be wrong. In reality, the brain i

Not long ago, I caught myself getting irritated by someone at work for something that normally would not have bothered me at all. The email was fine. The comment was fine. The person was fine. But I felt my patience thin anyway. That moment made me pause, because I realized it wasn’t about them. It was about the state I was in.  (Okay, so maybe it was a little bit about them and the fact they were driving me crazy). Most people won’t say this out loud, but many are quietly th